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Hatred, in its dictionary definition, is a strong emotion of rejection towards a person, a group, or even an object or an idea. Hatred is most often associated with feelings of anger, disgust, and hostility.
There Are Three Types Of Hatred:
Hate because of an injury – If you ask a person why he hates another person, he will probably say that the other hurt, insulted, or separated from him and left him with a mental wound.
Hatred of jealousy– We often hate people who have something we do not have.
unjustified hatred – unjustified hatred is hatred in which a person hates another person or group for no real reason and without justification. This can be because of skin color, ethnicity, culture, political position, etc.
unjustified hatred is hatred that is full of ego, it is arrogant, opaque, and unnecessary. Free hatred does not allow for open discourse while accepting the opinion of the other. It desires to change at any cost, and if not, the other will be perceived by me as “an enemy.”
hatred leads to destruction because it splits and brings out evil, slander, contempt, contempt, and dizzying unrest.
And the question arises whether when a person is hurt or told that someone has said bad things about him and he may have been misled, imagine, but sure his friend has hurt him, is it unjustified hatred, and is it even possible to hate?
The Opposite Of Hate Is Love.
It is love without reason, interest, or gain. It is love that uproots hatred. We are born automatically with self-love. One should not develop such love, but it is important to keep rising.
When you want to beat someone, you ‘beat him’ with warmth and love, not in war, anger, revenge, and hatred. Rather, ‘feed’ it with kind words by listening in discourse and open communication.
This is how it works with our children, spouses, people we do not agree with, friends, at work, and in front of ourselves.
We need to change the dialogue to love. Love does not consent because one can also agree to disagree. Love is the ability to listen to the other person.
How To Forgive Those Who Hate?
How do you un-do hate? Ctrl + Z – If only this button could be imported from PC into reality, our lives would look different. It is impossible to go back in time and change what happened, but it is possible to stop hating.
It is hard to forgive a person who is hated because of ego, respect, and vengeance that seeks justice. There is a feeling that as long as we hate or get angry, we have a “secret weapon” to respond to the injury and not be left behind.
Anyone who has ever felt anger, hatred, and resentment toward another person over and over again knows that being able to let go of those feelings is a huge relief. So true it is easy to say but very difficult to do.
There are many vulnerabilities, from abusive words, humiliation, boycotts, and extreme cases.
Why Is It So Easy For Us To Hate?
We hate because we are hurt, and it is an unpleasant pain that we will do everything so that he does not return. But hatred feeds itself and fulfills exactly what we wanted to prevent. To defeat the one who hurt us it is better not to hate him because hatred distorts thought processes, blurs the big picture and leads to wrong emotional decisions. It is not an easy task to leave the past behind because what has happened cannot be erased or stored, even in our heart drawers.
How To Forgive A Person Who Hates?
To forgive in a way that frees us from harm, we need to think of forgiveness in a different way
3 Tips With Three Exercises
Understanding – Hatred hurts us because ‘the enemy is inside’: Most people are unaware that the reason they are suffering in life is shaping up, crashes at work, in relationships, in the media, and lack motivation and joy. It’s because of remnants of anger and hatred for things or people we have not released that are still with us inside the head and affecting our bodies.
The enemy is within ”- the enemy is in things we did not release and could not forgive to release and move on. Everything you hold in your head about someone else stays in your head, in your body, in your mind, and poisons you. Imagine it is like the water you drink mixed with bitterness and poison of resentment, hatred, and anger. When we hate others, we blame them, and the feeling of hatred fills us with toxic things.
Exercise
Describe the situation from 3 points of view – If you have chosen to forgive, release and move on, describe the situation from three points of view: yours, the offender’s, and the one “going up to the balcony” and looking from above.
Compassion – What brings good people to do bad deeds? “Obstacles on the way”: Life is a long and winding journey through which we encounter opportunities and obstacles, small and large bumps that divert us from the path. There are many trials, warning signs, lessons, and challenges in this way of our lives.
At any moment, we have the opportunity to re-choose where to turn.
People conduct themselves in a way that they know according to what they have learned and experienced in their lives. Sometimes a sense of belonging, meaning, and attention evokes a particularly abusive ‘spirit of nonsense’ behavior. This does not mean that these people are inherently bad, but it does mean that they are human and wrong.
If they took responsibility, asked for true forgiveness and remorse, and understand the meaning of the price they have to pay, who are we to continue to judge and hate them and continue to poison our lives as well?
To show compassion towards a person who has hurt us, it is important to understand that what brings people to abusive acts is the need to belong and attract attention. And what gets them out of extremes is that they will get empathy from the people they least expected to get, while they did not deserve it.
Find someone you think is unworthy of compassion, and give it to them. You will see how his heart softens because he needs it most of all.
Exercise for developing compassion and forgiveness: Think of a person who has hurt you, a person you hate, are disappointed, and hurt by. Write down on a page all the good features it has. Make an effort and shine a flashlight on what is “yes good in it” instead of what is “wrong.” No one knows what goes through a person’s heart. It is very easy to judge a person and think we have a secret key to his brain. Look at the list of “there” instead of “nothing” because a close look at forgiveness and compassion is an excellent opportunity to remove barriers, weights, pain, and judgment toward others.
Forgiveness – Forgiving does not mean that I justify the other’s behavior: Forgiving someone does not mean that I justify his abusive behavior. When I forgive a person I hate, I do not remove responsibility for what he has done. I forgive a person and not did. I do free myself and stop messing with the pain of hatred that gnaws at me. To release and forgive, one can talk about the pain in front of the offender or with myself honestly (through writing a letter, for example), and detail the pain and injustice done to me. The purpose of forgiveness is to put aside all the sickness that comes and move on in our lives.
Forgiveness does not have to keep in touch with the offender, this is why you can also forgive people who are not alive. Forgiveness allows you to close a chapter and start a new chapter, and the most important news about forgiveness is that you do not need the other person to forgive.
