It is difficult for most of us to apologize, especially to the people closest to us and our loved ones. This is how it is when the ego mixes in a relationship. Is it something in the sound of “forgiveness” that is difficult for us to express? How much does it cost us to apologize and forgive and more to the dearest and closest people?
The subject of forgiveness is a subject close to each and every person. We have hurt our lives or hurt someone else, and even hurt, or belittled ourselves. Sometimes we live with anger, resentment, and a sense of insult (and call it forgiveness), and sometimes the need arises to give back and take revenge on the one who hurt us. But in fact, the injury is to us. We delay our lives because of anger, guilt, remorse for deeds, and even an unfulfilled dream. We let certain emotions hold us back and manage us in dealing with separations as well. Do not forgive ourselves for all this injury and often walk around for years with heavy “stones” in the body.
What is forgiveness? Forgiveness is a word consisting of 5 letters that contain different, similar, and varied combinations: forgive, forgive (with the bad, disturbing thoughts that hold us back), eliminate (eliminate what is bothering us), me (forgive myself), basket (throw to the basket and eliminate ). Forgiveness is a word that can create a new reality – build, strengthen, encourage, promote and also destroy and destroy a relationship.
Forgiveness is a way of life for daily use all year round and yet we avoid and run away from this powerful word especially when it comes to the people closest to us.
If you ask yourself in all honesty: When was the last time you apologized to your children from spouses, parents, siblings, sisters, uncles, aunts, in-laws, and sisters-in-law?
We tend to move on. Dodge, flee to comfort zones other than to apologize and also to forgive.
It is difficult for most of us to apologize, especially to the people closest to us and our loved ones. This is how it is when the ego mixes in the relationship and the sensitivity rises to enormous dimensions. The viewing borders on great disappointment and the road to release and forgive is often long and is not in sight.
How do you apologize to the family?
- Explain to your child the difference between forgiveness, which is a polite word (sorry, what time is it, forgive what to eat today, etc.) and sincere and true forgiveness.
- Explain to your child what true forgiveness is compared to forgiveness that is simply said without meaning to, forgiveness of “going out of duty.”
- Apologize sincerely and honestly to your loved ones, for mistakes you make. Yes, it does not make you weak, but human. Explain why you apologize, and what your lesson is for next time.
- Accept the forgiveness of your children and those close to you – sometimes we can not relax and forgive at the moment they asked for forgiveness. So, take your time and go back to them when you are more relaxed and ready to accept their forgiveness.
- It is important that the couple apologize to each other in the presence of the children. This is a personal example and role model.
- Teach your child that even if they were hurt unintentionally and the other side was hurt, it is important to apologize.
- Teach your child to say and listen to the sounds of the word forgiveness. Take a deep breath and play them the sound, practice with them the sound of a word with deep meaning and let them feel what it does.
- Put the “ego” aside. Power games do not only promote quarrels and anger